Friday, September 2, 2011
I'm Zero Weeks and Craving a Baby
Be warned. There's a dangerous new "game" going around on Facebook. Just like the meme where you put the color of your bra in your status update, this is intended to somehow raise awareness about breast cancer among women and as an added bonus, drive men crazy wondering what the heck all the ladies are talking about. Fun!
I just spent the past 20 minutes in a tailspin of anxiety and jealousy after seeing a good friend's update that she was "6 weeks and craving Skittles." I couldn't believe it. She's pregnant again?! She said she was done having kids. Did she seriously get pregnant without even trying? At her age? And THIS is how she tells me? I was hurt that she hadn't broken the news to me privately, but even more stunned and appalled at the audacity of a woman over 40 to publicly announce her pregnancy so early in the first trimester - doesn't she know the odds?
I replied to her post, succinctly expressing my shock and disbelief: "???"
She sent me a private message explaining the game: you post an update saying, "I am ___ weeks and craving ____" Fill in the first blank with the number that correlates to your birth month, and the second one with a candy that matches your birth day, according to the handy chart provided. For instance, if today were your birthday you would post: "I'm 13 weeks and craving Starburst."
The message said this would raise awareness about breast cancer and included the warning "DO NOT tell any males what the status' mean, keep them guessing" and yes, the grammatical error irritates me almost as much as the thought that it's somehow funny to encourage non-pregnant women to post updates implying pregnancy.
Perhaps I'm being a self-absorbed infertile again. Maybe only someone who has known the pain of infertility and miscarriage would fail to find the humor in pretending to be pregnant. Probably there are a lot of girls out there, posting this status and LOL-ing hysterically when their boyfriends read it and freak out.
But can someone please tell me what, exactly, this has to do with breast cancer? The bra-color thing was harmless enough, and while one could argue that it did little to actually combat the disease, at least the connection between bras and breasts is obvious. But this? I just don't see it.
Also, we want to raise awareness but only among half the population? We should keep men "guessing" about this disease that affects their mothers, sisters, friends and wives? This game fails miserably as a call to action against breast cancer but succeeds brilliantly as a painful reminder to infertile women of their reproductive inadequacies.
Breast cancer is a cruel and vicious disease. It's taken the life of my aunt and my BFF's mother and millions of other vibrant and amazing women. But instead of posting a Facebook update that taunts all the brave warriors desperately battling infertility, I'm going to make a donation to the National Breast Cancer Foundation.