|it's what's for dinner|
It's all about me. It's not just the miscarriage. The waves of anger, loss and despair that currently consume me do leave me even more inclined to turn my gaze inwards, but I've been like this for a while. The past 3+ years of fertility treatments has left me with a bizarre sort of tunnel vision. In other words, I have my head so far up my uterus I can't see straight.
The quest to conceive has taken over my life. My infertility has become a filter through which I view the entire world.
My take on current events: What's wrong with a world where Casey Anthony can have children and I can't? The fact that she's talking about wanting to get pregnant again, and most likely could get knocked up in a skinny minute if she wanted to, makes me ill. Why are messed-up women always so fertile?
Future plans: Sorry, can't commit to anything beyond 2 months from now, because something might be happening that involves my reproductive system, requires frequent trips to offices where people sample my bodily fluids and peer at my lady parts, and causes me to have a refrigerator full of hypodermic drugs.
How was my day? I saw six women with big pregnant bellies, five with newborns, two sets of toddler twins, and one 4-year-old girl in a rumpled flowered dress running on her tippy-toes in purple shoes and my heart ached every single time.
What's new at work? I'm so burned out on my job. But I can't quit because I have all this leave time saved up and I'll need that if ever I get pregnant. And they're good about letting me have time off when I need it for a doctor's appointment, emergency d&c, or just because I'm crying too hard to get my puffy-faced self into work. I fantasize about using up all my vacation and sick time after the baby's born and then quitting to be a stay-at-home mom. Then I realize just how far removed from reality that vision is, get depressed and spend an hour mindlessly surfing the web instead of focusing on work and as a result I'm falling behind on all my projects and kind of stressed out about it but still too paralyzed with grief to comprehend tackling any of said projects, thanks for asking.
Sure is hot, isn't it? And yet my feet are cold. I think my lousy circulation means there's not enough blood flow to the uterus. Maybe that's contributing to my infertility....
How are your friends? One of them just had a baby. I'm jealous and bitter.
What are we having for dinner? Grass-fed beef, organic kale and lentils if I'm gearing up for or in the middle of an IVF cycle, pineapple for dessert if I'm in the two-week-wait post transfer, no peanuts if I'm pregnant, bacon cheeseburger if I'm wallowing in misery and disappointment after a failed cycle.
Someone please bring me a cheeseburger. And yes I'd like fries with that.